You’ve Lost Your Job - How Do You Cope?

“I can’t believe I lost my Job!”

If this statement isn't one of your worst nightmares, you don’t know what is…
How prepared are you for an unexpected turn of events? What would happen if the foundation upon which your income was based suddenly crumbled?—how would you cope?

In these tough economic times, the unemployment rate is high and job scarcity is a common problem. You therefore can't underestimate the importance of having a job to guarantee some form of financial security. Having a steady job is as relieving as drinking a cold glass of water on a hot summer day. Knowing all this, most people can’t afford to lose their jobs, especially since the key word for most people is bills, bills and more bills! The only way to settle the “bills” issue is to try to stay hired.

Most people assume and rightly so, that they can't get laid off or get fired. They are aware that these things happen to other people but pray that it doesn't happen to them. But, what if you are not prepared for it and it happens to you?

When we are caught off guard, our coping mechanisms may fail or we may just not know how to react. If you weren't prepared for this loss, you can definitely use these tips to help you cope during this period.

7 Valuable tips for surviving a job loss crisis:

1. Don’t panic.

When you think about all the bills you have to pay and all those who depend upon your income, it’s very easy to panic. The uncertainty of the future ahead and the reality that things have changed can be very overwhelming. When you have lost your job, you might panic because things seem out of control. As tempting as that may be, don’t panic because you will need a clear mind to focus on your future.

2. Accept your situation.

The sooner you accept your situation the better. Don’t stay in a state of disbelief and denial. Don’t waste your life harboring feelings of revenge and hatred towards your former employers. Every case is different, but if you intend to sue for wrongful dismissal; consider whether the measure is worth pursuing. Apply your time and energy on finding a new job. Accept your situation and remember that life does not always turn out as planned. When unexpected events occur, be prepared to re-adjust and move on.

3. De-stress yourself.

The stress involved when one has lost their job can’t be underestimated. Many a sleepless nights are caused by constantly worrying about a future over which you may have no control. The uncertainty ahead may cause an over flow of negative feelings and you may need time to deal with the shock and to clear your head. When it gets unbearable, don't make hasty decisions. Take some time to think about what to do next. To help ease the stress, talk to a close friend or trusted family member about your situation.

4. Start a new job search.

As soon as you get the motivation, undertake an aggressive job search campaign. Update your resume, do some research on the internet, look up information about current job listings and post your resume online. Visit employment agencies and let them know about your availability to work and the positions that you would be interested in. Check the jobs listed in classified sections of your local newspaper, network with people and let them know that you are looking for a job. Send out your resume to employers who have job openings that may interest you. Do something to get yourself hired as soon as possible.

5. Stay positive.

Don’t allow yourself to be engulfed by negative feelings of self-pity, worthlessness, anger, bitterness and etc. These feelings may rear their ugly heads, but keep them in check because they rob you of your power and make your life stagnant. Motivate yourself daily by looking on the bright side.

6. Budget your finances.

Now that you don’t have a steady flow of income, consider putting a tighter reign on your income by cutting back on your expenditure. If you don’t have any emergency money saved up, keep all the ‘luxuries’ at bay. This means that you must make clear distinctions between what you really need and what you want.

7. Move on.

Hey, it’s not the end of the world. Always remember, “Every exit from somewhere is an entrance somewhere else.” Tom Stoppard. A bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you fail to make a turn. Don’t be afraid to move on and start a fresh. This may just be the beginning of something beautiful.


Caroline Jalango is a life strategist and motivational coach for women who want to do better for themselves. She is the author of "Settle for Less No More” and "You Deserve to Feel Good" motivational books for women who want to succeed. For more topics like this, visit to gain the momentum to do better for yourself and get the results you want. Go to to receive a free ebook to help you do better for yourself.