7 Tips to Help You Pick Up the Pieces of Your Life

You know the feeling too well, you feel tired of everything, overwhelmed and helpless.

You may be going through such trying times in your life, career or relationships…you feel blinded.

You feel as though you are falling into a deep, dark slippery and bottomless pit with no grip or support. You thought you were walking on solid ground but now the ground is giving way and you are slipping and tumbling and frantically trying to catch your breath!

You have had enough of this roller coaster. You now want to get back on your feet and STAND strong. You are ready to pick up the pieces of your life and move on.

The question on your mind is how can I get back on my feet?

 7 tips to help you get back on your feet:

1. Just be still.

If you just can’t seem to think straight or if your mind is crowded with conflicting thoughts and questions without answers… then it’s time to be still. There is an amazing power in stillness and sometimes you just need to quiet yourself, be still in the moment and just be stuck. If you can’t figure out what to do or determine the next step to take or if you feel that you are not in the right state of mind to make decisions…just be still. Don’t put pressure on yourself. As scary as not knowing what to do may be, sometimes it’s okay to just be “stuck” for a while and be in a state of not knowing.

2. Pray.

If ever there was a time to pray, this is it. Prayer changes things and when nothing else seems to work, your belief in God can and will sustain you in such an amazing way. Prayer gives you a supernatural resolve to face each new day with hope for a better future. Prayer also calms you down, alleviates the stress and helps you see things more clearly.

3. Make a commitment to survive.

If you seriously want to pick up the pieces of your life, you have to commit to the process of getting your life together and dedicate yourself to making it happen. Commitment means making decisions in favor of your success and working to achieve a better, healthier and well rounded happier you. It also means not surrendering to self-sabotaging attitudes, thoughts and habits that choke your resolve to pick up the pieces of your life.

4. Envision your future.

As difficult as it may be, create a new vision for the future or life you want. Create a mental picture of a brighter, victorious and successful future for yourself. See yourself overcoming the situation that you are facing and you surely will. See yourself surviving and you surely will. See yourself winning the game and you surely will!

5. Talk to someone.

A word of comfort, a reassuring hug or an appropriate piece of advice may be just what you need. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings with the people you trust. People want to help and support you. Reach out to a trustworthy person and talk about your feelings. Don’t keep them all inside. Confide in your therapist, trusted friends or family. Cry over the pain…its okay to cry. Let out your feelings of pain and loss. Release yourself and when you are done, begin to see and live life beyond the tears.

6. Get support.

 Get support from a coach, counselor or a friend who can help you structure your life. Join a support group, or a church group or any club or association with activities that interest you. People who are committed to your overall well being and progress will boost not only your morale but also restore your confidence and strength for survival.

7. Count your blessings.

This may be a difficult thing to do, but the truth is that, whether we want to acknowledge it or not, there is always someone or something we are grateful for. Even if things are really bad, blessings still abound all around us. Dwell on those things that make you glad that you are alive and not alone.


Caroline Jalango is a life strategist and motivational coach for women who want to do better for themselves. She is the author of "Settle for Less No More” and "You Deserve to Feel Good" motivational books for women who want to succeed. For more topics like this, visit to gain the momentum to do better for yourself and get the results you want! Go to to receive a free ebook to help you do better for yourself.