Dear Unstoppable Woman,
How do you handle stress and pressure?
In March 2007, I left work at about five o’clock eager to get home, turn on the television, make my favorite brand of hot Indian Chai, relax and just enjoy my life.
It was a pretty normal afternoon or so I thought!
After many years of driving my 13 year old car, I had finally got a brand new one. I had owned it for sixteen days.
Anyway, as I was driving home—a deer suddenly jumped right in front of my car. Before I could clearly process what was going on, the deer was on my windshield and my air bags had deployed.
In that moment, which I will call my “priority defining moment,”—everything, including all my plans for the evening and beyond suddenly became irrelevant. They didn’t matter anymore…what mattered was the crisis I was facing and what needed to happen next to bring about a sense of normalcy in my life.
Have you ever had those kinds of moments?
Anyway, for a brief moment, I really didn't know what to do. My head was spinning. I couldn't believe what had happened. I later realized I was in shock!
As I sat in my car wondering what to do next, I found myself wishing that there was some knowledgeable person with me to handle the details of what needed to happen next. I didn't want to deal with the reality I was facing. All I wanted to do was to focus on what I was feeling…which was, “I can’t believe that this deer just ruined my new car!”
I had to quickly come to my senses because the reality was, I was alone on the road and if I wanted help…it was up to me to gather my thoughts, figure out what to do and respond to the crisis.
It was up to me. I felt pressured to perform!
I had a rough idea about what I needed to do, but in that moment, I found it challenging to process my thoughts, put them together and then act on them. I was literally asking myself questions like, “Caroline, what do you need to do when you have an accident?” (Strange but true.)
Then I remembered that I had some handy "What? Who? How? Where? When?"—life management questions which had helped me create a plan of action in the past.
Are you feeling stressed and pressured and don’t know what to do?
Here are 5 simple life management questions to help you ease the pressure, get things in perspective and take the next step forward:
The questions are pretty basic but they work and can be used in any situation! Try them.
With regard to a specific situation you are currently facing in your personal life, health, emotions, business, school, career, finances and so forth.
Consider and answer the following questions:
For example: What is going on? What needs to happen next? What can someone do to help me? What can I do to make it better? What can I do to get from here to there?
For example: Who needs to know? Who should be contacted? Who can help? Who has the resources I need? Who cares about me? Who needs my product? Who is in charge?
For example: How can this be resolved? How can I deal with this situation? How can I contact that person? How can I be helped? How can I get what I want?
For example: Where can I find help? Where do I need to start? Where are the resources I need? Where are the people who can address this issue?
For example: By when should this project be complete? By when should the action be taken? Remember that a goal without a deadline is wishful thinking and nothing else.
TIP: When faced with any situation, stop, breathe and ask—what, who, how, where and when!
Keep me posted!
Caroline Jalango is a life strategist and motivational coach for women who want to do better for themselves. She is the author of "Settle for Less No More” and "You Deserve to Feel Good" motivational books for women who want to succeed. For more topics like this, visit http://www.motivationzone.com to gain the momentum to do better for yourself and get the results you want! Go to http://motivationzone.com to download and receive a free ebook to help you do better for yourself.