How to Start Feeling Good About Yourself Right Now!

Do you feel besieged by forces beyond your control?

Perhaps you have problems at work which seem insurmountable. Lately, most of your work has been displeasing to your boss. You feel stressed out because the new and improved versions of your work have been discredited and dismissed.

Perhaps you are struggling to salvage a relationship with a loved one. You are doing everything you can to make things work. You feel helpless because despite all the “communication” in the world, the rift in your relationship still keeps widening.

Perhaps you are living the lonely life. After all your social attempts, you still haven’t made any friends and are beginning to wonder if there is something wrong with you. You feel so alone, left out and sad.

Perhaps you have been looking for a well paying job for so long. You have met many potential employers, had countless interviews and yet you haven’t heard the precious words, “you are hired!”You feel as if your efforts remain unrewarded. You feel unappreciated, used, wasted and totally drained.

 You feel bad about your value as a person; your job, your achievements, your potential for success and even how others perceive and relate to you. As it stands, you are barely clinging to the last shreds of your self esteem.It’s no secret that your self esteem has been affected. You need an ego boost and you need it now. You need to feel great and confident about yourself again.

The question on your mind is— what can you do to begin feeling better today?

The simplest way to feel better, boost your self esteem and improve your life is to find something you love to do, do it and be great at it.

When you are engrossed in the work you love…nothing else seems to matter. You feel good. You feel proud. You become engulfed with a sense of purpose and accomplishment. When you are working on something you love— you feel validated. It’s almost like being encompassed by a powerful rush of positive energy which makes you feel worthwhile and valuable.

Successfully doing meaningful or fulfilling work gives you an instant self esteem boost.

The work you love is precious. It is what you do, create or provide. When you use your God given talents and abilities to perform your work, it even becomes more special. It becomes something which only you can do in the unique way you do it because bears your personal style. It brings you immense joy and fulfillment and can open doors for you— financial or otherwise. It can command other people’s respect and attract them to you. It can make you leave a dead end job to pursue other profitable ventures. Knowing that you are great at something you love is motivation enough to always hold your head high.

What do you love to do?

Do you love music, art, singing, dancing, painting, volunteering, designing, teaching, writing, or poetry? Are you good with, computers, kids, or even animals? Do you love to cook, garden, or organize stuff? Do you have any special skills or unique talents?

Whatever it is you love to do, polish it up and take it a notch higher. For example, if you love music, make a great demo cd and take it to a producer. If you are writing a book, strive to complete the manuscript while looking for an agent. If you love to sing and can sing, go for an audition, volunteer to sing at events or any place that will allow you to showcase your talent. If you love to dance, sign up for a professional dance classes. If you love design, start your own graphic design home business and so forth.Whether you consider what you love to do as your life purpose, life’s work, hobby or career, full or part time job— be great at it. Whether you are getting paid or volunteering or whether it’s a natural talent or a learned skill—be excellent!

The things you love to do are not in vain. Hold them in high regard. Because they will make you feel good about yourself and improve your life.Again, what do you love to do? Find out because it’s the key to boosting your self esteem.


Caroline Jalango is a life strategist and motivational coach for women who want to do better for themselves. She is the author of "Settle for Less No More” and "You Deserve to Feel Good" motivational books for women who want to succeed. For more topics like this, visit to gain the momentum to do better for yourself and get the results you want! Go to to download and receive a free ebook to help you do better for yourself.